If you have been reading our blog the last few weeks, you will remember the joy we have expressed at the news of Cassie’s pregnancy with our fifth child. In addition, we had even started a weekly post on Wednesday evenings for thrifty ways to prepare for a brand new baby. We have no idea how to do this, but we needed to give you an update concerning my dear wife’s pregnancy. I know of no other way than to include the text of an email we just forwarded to our church family that has been praying for us the last few days.
We write with heavy hearts to let you know the results of our doctor appointment. On late Sunday evening, Cassie’s bleeding and cramping became very severe and we knew that she had miscarried our child. Our appointment confirmed that suspicion. We have grieved and will continue to do so, but are also thankful for our God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles (II Cor 1:3-4) who has also given us peace during this time.
We thank each of you for your prayers and words of encouragement during this time as well. We cannot express enough our gratitude we had in worship of our Most High God on Sunday morning as it lifted up our sorrowing hearts.
Although the days fashioned for our child were few in number, it has been difficult. Please know we appreciate each of you and cannot express the thankfulness we have for the prayers of the saints and love that we have received from you all.
Psalm 139:13-16
13 For You formed my inward parts;
You covered me in my mother’s womb.
14 I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;[b]
Marvelous are Your works,
And that my soul knows very well.
15 My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
And in Your book they all were written,
The days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them.
We share this with you because many of you have shared with us your love, encouraging words, and excitement over our pregnancy. We in turn wanted to share with you an update and share with you what is going on with us. Having now experienced this firsthand, we also want to express that our hearts go out to those of you that have experienced this before.
I didn’t finish the verse from II Cor 1:4 where it states that we receive comfort “so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God”. We are comforted that we may comfort others with our comfort. It is only by the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ that we know this comfort who has loved us and became sin for us that we might know of the grace of God. We pray that you know of this comfort and share with you one of our favorite questions/answers regarding our faith.
Question: What is thy only comfort in life and death?
Answer: That I with body and soul, both in life and death, am not my own, but belong unto my faithful Saviour Jesus Christ; who, with his precious blood, has fully satisfied for all my sins, and delivered me from all the power of the devil; and so preserves me that without the will of my heavenly Father, not a hair can fall from my head; yea, that all things must be subservient to my salvation, and therefore, by his Holy Spirit, He also assures me of eternal life, and makes me sincerely willing and ready, henceforth, to live unto him.
Kristy
Oh my! Bless your hearts!! I have been there and I know the almost unbearable amount of pain and grief. You might already know, but please know that God didn’t “take” this baby from you. All good things come from God and He’s the life-giver. I just wanted to say that because so many people think the opposite is true. Praying for you!
Lyndsey
I am so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for your family. There is no better comfort than God at a time like this.
Jennie
Cassie and Alex~ My thoughts and prayers go out to you. May God keep you in his perfect peace.
Jennie
Amy Freemon
My thoughts and prayers are with. Having suffering this loss myself I understand your pain. God is our comforter above all others.
renee
Thank you so much for sharing scripture. I went thru a extopic miscarrige 2.17.10 and then a regualar miscarriage 9 months ago.I still have a heavy heart but GOD is good and I know we will be holding a little one in our arms soon!! So sorry to hear about you loss!
Andrea
I’m so sorry for your loss and I will be praying for you both. I just wanted to say what a wonderful example of being a christian the two of you have shown. It’s so easy to praise God when life is good, but the true test comes when we praise Him when our hearts are hurt. I’m so proud of both of you!
Karen
I am so sorry for your loss. Last March my third child died at 12 weeks gestation. I vividly recall the pain and grief. It was such an unexpected shock. My heart doesn’t understand why this happens, but I know that God is good even in the midst of the extreme pain. I also know that I was helped largely through the prayers and support of others who had walked this road before me. You are in my prayers today.
Sara
Oh Cassie! I’m so sorry. I have lost two babies, and while I do have my two daughters, and love them dearly, my heart still hurts. It was easier for me to be mad, but I’m so grateful for the comfort I still received from our loving Father in Heaven. He knows us, so much so that He knows the trials we must go through to become the people He needs us to be. You’re in my thoughts and prayers.
Tara
I have only recently started following your blog, but I wanted to say I am sorry and I grieve with you over your baby. I also lost a baby in my first trimester, it was harder than I ever imagined it could be. God will bring you through this in His time.
Kiz Leppert
My dearest Alex and Cassie;
My heart is broken for you during this time. And as ‘we mourn with those that mourn” we will rejoice with those that rejoice as we praise the LORD for your faithfulness. A testimony to our KING.
Please know that you are all lifted high, right to the throne room of the ALMIGHTY, as we bath you in prayer. And we will rejoice because HE hears our prayers.
You are not alone in this, we love you.
Katherine
I will certainly offer prayers for you and your family! I have never lost a child…cannot imagine how hard it must be…but I know that it is part of God’s mysterious plan and now you and your children have an intercessory in heaven! God bless!
Satomi
I’m so sorry to hear the news. I’ve been there and I’m much agree with what you have shared with us. Please know that God trusts you for being a wonderful parents and he trusts your faith in him. He’ll always be there for you and your family. You are in our prayer.
Becky
I am so, so sorry for your loss. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
thriftycas
Thank you all so much for your sweet and kind words and prayers! We have really appreciated your wonderful comments and emails!
Danielle Lewis
Cassie,
I am so sorry for your loss, I feel so bad that somehow I had missed this post from you guys. I had been wondering because I hadn’t heard you guys mention anything about it lately. I feel horrible that I did not find out and write you sooner. Please let me know if there is anything I can do.
~Danielle